Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Dealing with Judgment



Do you have small children? Have you ever been out in public when your toddler threw a tantrum? Did you feel the judgmental glances of the people around you as you tried to gain control of the situation?

Does one of your children struggle to make the grade?  Was there a time you found yourself dreading parent/teacher conferences because the previous 5 left you feeling inadequate?

What about when you’ve started a new job? Have you lived in fear, holding yourself to a superhuman standard, because you were afraid people would judge you harshly if you made a mistake because they didn’t know you? 

Often we judge people based on a moment in their life without knowing “their story” or understanding the circumstances that surround them.  We have all been judged and have all judged others.  Sadly, I think it has become so common we don’t realize we are doing it or the effects it has on other people.   Even in the church we can be quick to judge our leaders, our volunteers, and other Christians based on the small glimpses we see of their lives.  Why is that?  Is it because we feel better about ourselves after?  Or we think we have a better way?  Is the judgment based on selfish motives, emotions, or is it grounded in the truth?   

In 1 Corinthians 4, Paul has to address the church of Corinth because they are involved in quarreling, division, and strife.  They are judging their leaders, and discrediting Paul.  But Paul states as a minister, a humble messenger of God, he is to be regarded as a servant, to be a steward of God’s truth.  He continues to say that,
“I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself.  My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent.  It is the Lord who judges me.  Therefore, judge nothing before the appointed time; wait till the Lord comes.  He will bring light to what is hidden in darkness and expose the motives of men’s hearts.  At that time each will receive his praise from God”                                                                                                                  1 Corinthians 4:3-5

Paul finds his identify in Christ.  He cares more about what His Lord thinks of him, than any man or court.  Can you say that?   Do you make decisions based on how you will appear to others, or how you will appear to God?  Do you view yourself through their eyes, your own eyes, or how God sees you? 

So often our actions are a reaction to the culture around us.  We crave a relationship with God, we know He loves us, and in Him we are made anew, but it is hard to go against the current.  We don’t want to be judged by our family, friends, or colleagues so we give in to the status quo.  Unlike Paul, I do get caught up with what other people think and at times have let that paralyze me.  I have to continually ask myself, “Am I more concerned with the evaluation of others, or God’s evaluation of my life?”  In order for each of us to TRULY seek a Christ-centered life, to be a faithful servant, we must be obedient to God and support others doing the same.

None of us want to receive judgment, but we can often be quick to place it.  Paul makes it clear that the Lord will judge his leadership, his ministry, his motives, not man.  We must stop judging each other.  We tear apart the church, the community of believers, with each little judgmental comment.  It is not our responsibility to evaluate others.  Romans 14:10 makes it clear that God will judge us, “But you, why do you judge your brother?  Or you again, why do you regard your brother with contempt? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God.”  God is the only one with that right, and He is the only one who can see the whole picture, bringing “light to what is hidden in darkness and expose the motives of men’s hearts.”  God can see both outward service and inward devotion, and only he can give praise accordingly.

We must seek God, follow His course and not be deviated by others, our perceptions of others, or the insecurities within, for it is His judgment that matters.  We are only accountable to one, and when we can grasp firmly a hold of that truth we are free to be who God created us to be and focus all of our resources on serving Him.   

Praying for you,
Julie Eastman
NCC Family Minister

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